Nigerian women undoubtedly make some of the best girlfriends, and even wives – it’s just about meeting the right one. Not only are they sexy and smart, but they are also often educated, loving, and ambitious towards life. And, as big as Nigeria is, no matter where you go you’ll find these common trends, and the both positive personality and charm of these women – which are sure to sweep you off your feet!
Foreigner men absolutely love, and have had a lot of success with Nigerian wives. So, it should be no surprise that both online and in-person dating for Nigerian women has become quite popular.
Be sure to read the following Top 10 Tips for Dating a Nigerian woman so you are not only prepared, but also educated as to the type of women you’re getting yourself involved with. And, why American men or other foreigners from around the world travel so far to date and court Nigerian women.
1. Taking Religion Seriously and Being Respectful
You are going to find that most Nigerian women, may they be from the city or smaller town, are quite religious. And, while in most cases their religion of preference is Christianity, there are also many that are Muslim – depending on where you are.
Ultimately, regardless of your preference, try to keep an open mind – and of course be respectful. Just know that religion is very important to Nigerian women, so if you can’t accept that then chances are it won’t work out.
2. Education and Language Skills
Believe it or not, nearly any Nigerian woman you meet, mostly in the city but also in plenty of smaller towns or villages will speak some, if not fluent English. Also, regardless of economic struggles, Nigerian women take education very seriously, and in most cases have at minimum a high school level education.
So, education is definitely an area that requires your respect, and something you should take seriously as well – regardless of what your current education aspirations are or what field of interest.
With that being said, it’s also worth considering studying a few words in the local dialect of the woman you’re interested in – either in advance or once you are in Nigeria. Even just a few phrases can make all the difference, show her that you truly care, and are committed to getting to know both more about her and her culture.
3. Materialism versus Love and Care
While it’s true that any nationality of woman or country will have its share of ‘bag apples’, Nigerian girls are no exception. And, while you’ll find that the majority of Nigerian women are honest, loving, and humble, there are still a fair share of materialistic or spoiled ones as well, so choose carefully and be sure to learn about and meet her family.
A Nigerian woman will likely take care of you better than any other woman has before, but in exchange also expect to likewise be taken care of. This does not so much mean expensive jewelry or name brand clothes, bags, or shoes as much as it does just the basic amenities, keeping a roof over both of your head, etc.
So, just try to be mindful of any ‘red flags, and if in doubt, turn the other way and take comfort in knowing that there are plenty of other beautiful, single, and honest Nigerian women out there looking for their future husband – especially if you’re a foreigner.
4. Be Sensitive and Avoid Aggression at All Costs
Getting the Nigerian woman of your dreams should by no means be a hard feat. And, assuming you are a respectable, loving, honest man and are not already married or intending on cheating on her, then chances are you’re going to have great luck and experiences in Nigeria.
But, with that being said, it’s important to understand and respect that domestic violence rates are incredibly high in Nigerian.
So, ensure you are always as calm as possible when speaking to her, respectful, and do not verbally – and certainly not physically – abuse her. And, know that no matter how big you think the city you live in is, word gets around fast, and people know more than you think.
So, treat your Nigerian woman just as you’d want any man to treat your sister or mother, carry yourself with respect, love her, and in return you’ll be loved in return beyond your imagination.
5. Faithfulness and Understanding
A major advantage of being a foreigner and dating or marrying a Nigerian woman is that the majority of Nigerian men are not only unfaithful, but also ‘master’ manipulators, insensitive, and often not understanding.
Because of this, the chances of landing nearly any Nigerian woman you want are definitely in your favor, assuming you have chemistry, and that you can make one another happy.
This means, if and when you begin dating or the day comes that you marry your Nigerian girlfriend, just make sure you are sincere, giving her the love, respect, and admiration she deserves.
Remember, she is a human being, and may or may not have had bad, or even traumatic experiences in the past – so understanding and patience are a virtue.
6. The Anomaly of Assumed “Status”
Whether the color of your skin, or because someone finds out either what your career is, or that you’re retired and receive a pension – expect to be looked at or even called “rich”. And, while it might make you feel uncomfortable, just know that it’s not meant to.
As for skin color, even though Nigeria has been colonized by the English, the truth is up to 70% or more of Nigerian women appear to be inflated with white skin, many turning to self-bleaching.
So, while this might make you uneasy, just try to accept it, and if not anything understand that its reality – before you begin dating, or seek out a Nigerian girlfriend.
After all, there will still be plenty of Nigerian women who are not like this, you just need to socialize, meet new people, and explore – you’re bound to find the right one with a little effort and perseverance.
Just know, depending on your patience level, and what you’re willing to tolerate, the type of woman, her family, and friends will likely together dictate the likelihood of your success together as a couple.
7. Why Submissiveness isn’t always Servient
Although it’s true that most Nigerian women are submissive in one way or another, regardless of education or social status, this should not be mistaken for servient.
And, it might be a little confusing because while traditional, most if not all Nigerian women were brought up to, and by habit will more than likely cater to you, feed you, love you, and make sure you are always well-fed, happy, and healthy.
But, with that being said, don’t take your Nigerian girlfriend or wife for granted – and you should do just fine.
8. Commitment and Meeting the Parents
You will find that both commitment and meeting the parents will play ‘hand in hand’ when it comes to dating, and one day marrying a Nigerian woman. Therefore, it’s critical that you prepare yourself, familiarize yourself with her family, and learn how to properly greet, and interact with them.
Learn as much as much as possible about her culture, and do your best to be humble, honest, and leave a good impression. After all, their approval could make or break the relationship you have and any future relationship together.
9. Mutual Pleasure with a Purpose
To keep it brief, Nigerian men more often than not have a reputation of not going above and beyond for their woman or wife in bed.
So, when it comes to a sexual relationship and pleasure, make sure you remember that it goes both ways. And, for the record, it’s not just in the bed, but also in everyday life.
So, make it a point to listen to your Nigerian woman, understand her, what makes her happy, and what makes her sad. Try to observe what she doesn’t like, and of course, avoid doing those things.
10. Communication Loyalty and Eligibility
Last but not least, never underestimate the value of communication, and know that loyalty as well as how you present yourself as a bachelor and future husband to your Nigerian girlfriend will mean everything.
Don’t be afraid to ask your Nigerian girlfriend or wife how she is feeling, and be a good listener – show genuine care, and if possible do something to make her feel better. After all, she should be your best friend, and as a team, you should do everything in your power to make each other happy and successful in life.